Crowded Meals: Eating Disorders & Christianity

Taking a break in our regular schedule to post this incredibly brave entry today, as it covers a topic that is increasingly present in the lives of many girls reading. We’re praying that this post might be useful in some way – whether it equips you to be a better friend to somebody, or gives you hope in your own tricky journey. Please read and lift your gaze straight up to your Maker – He loves you very much.


I never thought I would be sat here writing this. It has always been my dirty little secret. Sure, there are a few friends who are familiar with this battle, who have held my hand through doctor appointments, outpatients therapy and heavy sobs over spontaneous meals. But that is after all how the disease flourishes, it feeds upon deception and secrets, and unfortunately, the church is far too eager to push it into the shadows. And yet here I am.

I have an eating disorder. 

Already I can see your eyes shift awkwardly to the ground. Tension bubbles to the surface as you survey my body in a way you never have before, “are you really that thin? You don’t look like a walking skeleton to me.” 

One of the many misconceptions that the media has fed about eating disorders. As tempted as I am to write this article merely challenging all of the dangerous stereotypes and lies that are postulated about anorexia, among other disorders, for now I will settle with this: weight-loss is merely an outer symptom of whatever is going on in the mind. If you can see that someone visibly has an eating disorder, then they are already dangerously tangled up at the bottom of the rabbit hole. 

How did I get here? They say it all starts with a point. A trigger fired. A spark that is engulfed with flames. I’ve been trying to find this point for years now, pinpointing the exact time that anorexia placed its hands around my neck, ready to squeeze. But I can’t find it. The longer I search, the more convoluted the progression becomes. The feelings bleed into one another until I’m back to being a young child, wondering if anorexia has simply always been there, merely medically diagnosed at age 16. 

I’m not sure. 

I am sure however that this road has been full of tangents and turn-offs, full of many lanes and reckless drivers. Some anorexia sufferers prefer to begin looking out. Looking at the minefield of heart-ache and misplaced words that got them to this point. Not me. This disease begins and ends with me.

And yet for me, and many other women in the church, there is an added complication. Walking along this road I was never alone, but had Jesus at my side.

Anorexia and Faith – a contradiction in terms?

I have been a Christian for as long as I can remember – lucky to have never walked outside of God’s love and grace. I have known Him, and Him me, for many years now. So when I first sunk into the depths of this disease, and the relapses that have followed since recovery, how did I begin to reconcile this disease and a faith that was at the heart of all I was? 

My first reaction was, and still is, to distance myself from God. It is difficult to find a coherent approach to mental health and eating disorders in the institution that is the church, with a few tempted to say that eating disorders are a result of our failings as a Christian. This is something I just can’t accept having now lived with the disorder for six years. Whilst the eating disorder undoubtedly highlights the flaws in my faith and makes it harder to sustain a good relationship with God, it is not a direct cause of my own sin. If it were, then anyone who struggles with their identity in Christ would find themselves in the battle with an eating disorder. No, like a physical illness, mental illness is unfortunately a consequence of a falling world. 

However, because of the nature of the disorder, I am all too aware that the thoughts that penetrate my mind are not of God. Out of shame and guilt, I tend to find myself climbing up a tree, out of God’s sight and my assumed condemnation.

How quick I am to brush Him with the same judgement that I put on myself.

The great thing is that God does not leave me stuck up my tree of shame. You may have heard of Zaccheus the tax collector who lived in the times of Jesus. Hated by his community and aware of his vicious actions, Zaccheus climbed to the top of a tree during one of Jesus’s ‘walk-abouts’ and there he stayed. Close enough to catch just a sight of God’s glory, but far enough away so as not to taint the Son of God with his unholiness. However, Jesus sought out Zaccheus, and to everyone’s shock and horror, invited himself round for dinner.

In my own life, God also seeks me out in my sin and my shame, calling me to come down from my tree of fear. After that, it’s up to me. There are days when my legs move from underneath themselves, eager to untie myself and climb down into God’s embrace. But there are other days when the leap seems too far, the embrace too fragile, as I grip onto my tree, not trusting God’s love for me at the bottom. 

Where do we go from here?

I so wish I could finish this post by giving a tangible hope of my own recovery for those who suffer out there. Today I can’t do that. I can however give the hope that you are not alone, and at some point the stigma against mental health and eating disorders in society has to stop. Having been enveloped by love in my own church, I have every hope that the Church can be a beacon of education and compassion for those who suffer. Having an eating disorder is a lonely and isolated journey that cordons off your mind from the rest of the world. We as the church have to make sure that eating disorders don’t flourish in the shadows. There are too many of us hurting in silence.

You are loved:

I can also tell you that you are fearlessly and unmistakably loved, no matter what the state of your mind is. No matter how alone you feel in your suffering, you do not walk this battle solo. The God of the Heavens is at your side, and the monsters in your head are no challenge for Him.  There will always be few people who really, truly understand what it is like to be in your head, however God sees it all. He sees all your thoughts and knows you inside out. Talk to Him. I have learned over the years that it is better to take my most sinister, most disjointed thoughts to Him than to block Him out completely. After all, we already know that He loved us at our darkest. Trust Him to love you now. 

Your life has a purpose:

Eating disorders and mental illnesses have a messy and dark past. Our culture is still laced with stereotypes and assumptions that were harmful and dangerous to those who suffer. Among this remains an assumption that you are useless goods, that your struggles have tainted your ability to help build God’s kingdom. That simply could not be further from the truth. One of the things I love most about the Bible is that it is an account of broken people being redeemed for God’s purposes. Furthermore, one of the greatest Bible teachers this world has ever known, Charles Spurgeon, infamously struggled with a dark depression for his entire life. Yet look what a role Spurgeon was given on this Earth. Don’t hold yourself to the earthly standards of defeat and a futile future, look to God for your purpose in this life.

Don’t place your hope in recovery:

I continue to pray for recovery, and I have no doubt that God could eliminate the demon-girl stuck in my head, however it is not in that that I put my trust. Instead, I trust that God has overcome this world, and everything I experience here will be but a breathe when we are in paradise. This is simply my burning furnace, and it is through this that I must pass. I trust that He will restore me, but even if He doesn’t on this earth, I won’t give up on a God that has not yet let me down. 

“I am the subject of depression so fearful that I hope none of you ever get to such extremes of wretchedness as I go to.  But I always get back again by this–I know that I trust Christ.  I have no reliance but in Him, and if He falls, I shall fall with Him.  But if He does not, I shall not.  Because He lives, I shall live also, and I spring to my legs again and fight with my depressions of spirit and get the victory through it.  And so may you do, and so you must, for there is no other way of escaping from it.”

~ Charles Spurgeon

Written anonymously

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with an eating disorder, there are a number of places to look for help:

NHS Website

BEAT Website (Beating Eating Disorders), including a whole page dedicated to providing resources regarding eating disorders

However, if you are suffering the most important thing is to seek out help as soon as possible from a medical professional.



  1. Emilie
    Posted 01/04/2014 at 12:11 | Permalink | Reply

    Really brave of you to write about this and I couldn’t agree more! 1 in 4 christian girls suffer from an eating disorder often in silence and its something that breaks my heart. Three years ago God healed me from my struggles of anorexia and it was in that moment when I became a Christian. ‘Take heart – for I overcome the world.’ Since that moment the ‘demon girl’in my head has been silenced and thrown into the fire. God has now called me to minister in this area, I think he pulled me out of that dark place to help others struggling. I have started an art therapy group on my local ED ward and I although this was written anomalously, I will be praying for the writer and if she needs any resources, wants to borrow books on the topic or wants to meet up I am more than willing. God Bless, and well done! xx


    • Posted 01/04/2014 at 13:36 | Permalink | Reply

      Emilie! Thank you so much for your honesty with sharing your story. We praise God that you are now recovered and that He invaded your life in such a way. Thank you for ministering in this area. We too believe that God has a way of allowing us to pass through the furnace so as to bring hope to other people’s lives, and it is great to see you living this out. Please be encouraged to keep pouring out the love of Jesus, and if you would ever like to write a post then just send an email to – God bless xo


  2. Posted 01/04/2014 at 16:21 | Permalink | Reply

    Thank you for being brave enough to write this. I’ve struggled with an eating disorder as well and I’ve learned that each day is a battle (doesn’t the Bible tell us that anyway?) and that even if I didn’t struggle with food, I’d find something else that I’d do war with. I was very encouraged by your post and your heart. Thank you so much for writing this. Many, many blessings to you, dear sister in Christ!


    • Posted 02/04/2014 at 10:20 | Permalink | Reply

      Oh Tara, our hearts ache for your struggles. But we’re so encouraged to see you holding close to God and His Word. You couldn’t be more right about taking every day as it comes, I think a lot of life is like that. I’ve always loved Lamentations 3:22 – God’s mercies are new every morning. He will give you the strength to make it through whatever this day holds. Much love and blessings xo


  3. Posted 03/04/2014 at 11:35 | Permalink | Reply

    Thanks so much for this. x


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